My husband and I have nothing to say. That's why we know each other and love each other. The topics we discussed are very extensive, but the most common topics are economy, real estate, political environment, family and marriage.
Recently, I watched a TV play "mother-in-law is coming", which talked about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and all kinds of contradictions around this theme. In my opinion, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is mainly about mutual understanding and mutual concession. It's really a "step back, sea and sky". In fact, the relationship between husband and wife is the same. We all give in. Many problems have been solved and the family will be harmonious.
When I said that the old people like to get up early and the younger people like to sleep late, the old people are busy doing this and that, and the noise is loud, which wakes up their daughter-in-law. As a result, they don't like each other. My husband said, "they like to get up early and get up late. They can't blame each other. Late risers can say to early risers, "can you be as quiet as possible?" It's much better to talk in a deliberative tone and show respect for each other. " (this is just an example. There are many root causes of contradictions in our life. It comes down to the most fundamental point. There seem to be more cases of economic intensification.)
In fact, it's just that they don't understand their own habits and different views under different living backgrounds. They can't say which is right or wrong. If they look at it from the perspective of their mother-in-law, their mother-in-law is right, but from the perspective of their daughter-in-law, their daughter-in-law is right. That's why it's hard for honest officials to break up housework. As a result, people didn't pay attention to what they said, causing the whole family to quarrel, resulting in a bad relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and even the relationship between husband and wife.
My husband said that he saw an article saying that the tone of Chinese people's speech is different from that of Westerners. Chinese people speak differently to their family, friends and strangers. The more polite they are, the more alienated they are. On the contrary, they don't have to pay so much attention to speaking to their families. They don't like to say "thank you" and "love you".
It's true, but this way will make family members misunderstand and each other because of the tone. As a result, small things become endless quarrels, which makes the family not quiet. It's better for family members to pay attention to the tone when they speak. It's the same between husband and wife, not to mention between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. A family should speak more tactfully, which can avoid many misunderstandings and reduce many contradictions.
Although my husband is an American, he likes a big family. As long as he doesn't care about each other, he can get along well with everyone. Even if my parents live with him, he doesn't care. Many people say that Westerners do not like to live with their parents. In fact, this is not the case. Especially in the past, many Westerners lived with their parents when they were old and cared for their parents until they died. Of course, when their parents were willing, they mainly respected their parents' wishes.
I find that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the west is not so bad. I see that some of my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along well with each other, and they are friendly. I don't know if I know them less? Or people here don't like gossip, so I haven't heard so many difficult relationships between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? But there is one thing that Westerners do speak politely, no matter to family members, friends, neighbors or strangers. Secondly, people get along with each other with mutual respect, especially respect for each person's different living habits, views, opinions and private secrets. What's more, they don't want to be curious. What's more, as long as they can pay for their own money, they will be happy They like to manage themselves and not interfere with each other. Parents will not interfere with the income and expenditure of their daughter-in-law, whether their daughter-in-law has children or not, or even whether their son is married or not. At most, parents make suggestions. Even if they make suggestions, they won't hurt each other's feelings by saying so directly. On the contrary, parents are more encouraging and say nice things, and so are the daughters in law and sons in law. Personally, I think these may be a foundation for parents to get along well with their daughter-in-law and son-in-law. Therefore, there are not so many incidents such as mutual accusations or even quarrels, so there will be more harmony.
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